busy busy

I am very busy this past 2 months,

I want to complain.

I am being tasked too many things, too many responsibilities, too many jobs.

There is only 1 barry, and this is so much that i can do.

However, I realise that in order to realise my dream, there are times that I will be overworked.

Hence, I began to learn how to balance my work schedule.

Firstly, delegation is the key to reducing the mountains of work, to hills of work. Well mountains are bigger than hills. Hmm. Anyway, although delegation is paramount to get the jobSss done, it is crucial to remember that the quality might be compromised if they are not under supervision. Here is the tricky part. Exactly how much supervision is required to get the job done? 

If constant supervision is required, you may as well do the task yourself. To reduce the amount of supervising that you require will greatly depend on the i) the person that you task your work to. ii) the way you present the instructions to complete the particular task. iii) the deadline.

i) The person.
His working traits, his area of expertise must be identified before you pass any job to him.  The person being tasked must be responsible and deliberate in his work. With these imperative traits of a good worker, you will not need to constantly question about the progress of his work. His area of expertise, i believe this is common sense. Get the talented and creative ones to find the solutions on their own. Get the blur ones to follow step by step instructions in competing the task. Get the analytical and sharp ones to do the tedious and routine tasks. The better you know the guy that is working under you, the easier you are able to delegate the suitable task for him. This maximizes the potential of each individual. 

ii) The way you present the instructions are critical too. You do not feed them too many instructions and the methods on how they are going to complete the task. They are required to work and find solutions for their own. Clear and concise thats the key. Paint the picture of their goals and objectives. Lay out the restrictions that they must not cross when undertaking their tasks, however restrictions should be minimal. Once they use their own methods of approaching the tasks, you can further identify their weakness/strength.  

iii) Lastly, check on them. You will set a specific deadline for the assignments. You will also get them to report when they are at certain stages of their work. Or you can simply set a date for them. Such meetings not only serve as a mean to check on their work, but it also present them the platform to bring out the problems that requires your authority/view/decisions in order to resolve it. Allow them to bring up the solutions instead of coming up for them. Making them independent thinkers are crucial in building a stronger workforce under you.

Secondly, play hard. This is also very very very important but unfortunately i am sleeping now. Can’t type much. However, I SHALL CONTINUE WRITING NEXT TIME!!!

Ciaoz~

Stop Hating

I love the smell of my bed.

I love how my dad sings.

I love cycling around the park.

I love staring at the clouds and trying to figure what their shapes resemble.

I love singing in the bathroom.

I love it when I talk with my brother till we sleep.

I love the way I loved a girl that I never knew was possible.

I love doing nothing.

I love eating while watching tv, while thinking of other things all at the same time.

I love eating ice cream.

I love eating 2 ice cream.

I love stoning while staring at blank spaces.

I love drawing.

I love doodling.

I love mixing beer with sprite.

I love taking a nap after breakfast.

I love my mum.

I love my family.

I love myself =D.

Hmm..

The Awakening

By Sonny Carroll

A time comes in your life when you finally get it…
When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you
stop dead in your tracks and somewhere, the voice
inside your head cries out – ENOUGH!

Enough fighting and crying, or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes, you begin to look at the world through new eyes.

This is your awakening…You realize that it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming and you are not Cinderella and that in the real world, there aren’t always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you and in the process, a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are … and that’s OK. (They are entitled to their own views and opinions.) And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself and in the process, a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.

You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn’t do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected. You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that it’s not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself and in the process, a sense of safety & security is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties and in the process, a sense of peace & contentment is born of forgiveness.

You realize that much of the way you view yourself and the world around you, is a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche. You begin to sift through all the junk you’ve been fed about how you should behave, how you should look and how much you should weigh, what you should wear and where you should shop and what you should drive, how and where you should live and what you should do for a living, who you should marry and what you should expect of a marriage, the importance of having and raising children or what you owe your parents. You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. You begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.

You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with and in the process, you learn to go with your instincts.

You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive and that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” looking for your next fix.

You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a by gone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.

You learn that you don’t know everything; it’s not your job to save the world and that you can’t teach a pig to sing. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.

Then you learn about love. Romantic love and familial love. How to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away. You learn not to project your needs or your feelings onto a relationship. You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable or important because of the man on your arm or the child that bears your name.

You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes.

You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love; and you learn that you don’t have the right to demand love on your terms, just to make you happy.

You learn that alone does not mean lonely. You look in the mirror and come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 5 or a perfect 10 and you stop trying to compete with the image inside your head and agonizing over how you “stack up.”

You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs. You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK and that it is your right, to want things and to ask for the things that you want and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands.

You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity and respect and you won’t settle for less. You allow only the hands of a lover who cherishes you, to glorify you with his touch and in the process, you internalize the meaning of self-respect.

And you learn that your body really is your temple. And you begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water and taking more time to exercise. You learn that fatigue diminishes the spirit and can create doubt and fear. So you take more time to rest. Just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul; so you take more time to laugh and to play.

You learn that for the most part in life, you get what you believe you deserve and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen, is different from working toward making it happen.

More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance. You also learn that no one can do it all alone and that it’s OK to risk asking for help.

You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time; FEAR itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears, because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear, is to give away the right to live life on your terms.

You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom. You learn that life isn’t always fair, you don’t always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people. On these occasions, you learn not to personalize things. You learn that God isn’t punishing you or failing to answer your prayers; it’s just life happening.

You learn to deal with evil in its most primal state; the ego. You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.

You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted; things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about; a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower. Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself, by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never ever settle for less than your heart’s desire. You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind, and you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.

Finally, with courage in your heart and with God by your side you take a stand, you take a deep breath and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.

- http://www.inspirationpeak.com/library/awakening.html

i wanna resign too..

My Resignation

I am hereby officially tendering my resignation as an adult. I have decided I would like to accept the responsibilities of an 8 year-old. I want to go to McDonald’s and think that it’s a four star restaurant. I want to sail sticks across a fresh mud puddle and make a sidewalk with rocks. I want to think M&Ms are better than money because you can eat them. I want to lie under a big oak tree and run a lemonade stand with my friends on a hot summer’s day. I want to return to a time when life was simple; When all you knew were colors, multiplication tables, and nursery rhymes, but that didn’t bother you, because you didn’t know what you didn’t know and you didn’t care. All you knew was to be happy because you were blissfully unaware of all the things that should make you worried or upset. I want to think the world is fair. That everyone is honest and good. I want to believe that anything is possible. I want to be oblivious to the complexities of life and be overly excited by the little things again. I want to live simple again. I don’t want my day to consist of computer crashes, mountains of paperwork, depressing news, how to survive more days in the month than there is money in the bank, doctor bills, gossip, illness, and loss of loved ones. I want to believe in the power of smiles, hugs, a kind word, truth, justice, peace, dreams, the imagination, mankind, and making angels in the snow. So… here’s my checkbook and my car-keys, my credit card bills and my 401K statements. I am officially resigning from adulthood. And if you want to discuss this further, you’ll have to catch me first, cause…….. ……”Tag! You’re it.”

- http://www.inspirationpeak.com/shortstories/myresignation.html

fear

fear have restricedt me to many things in life.

the fear of what others feel about me.

the fear of being short.

the fear of being unsuccessful.

the fear of croahroaches.

the fear of failures.

the fear of losing control.

the fear of what others see me.

the fear of insects.

the fear of pretty girls.

All these fucking fears are meant to be conquered. They are forces that drives you and not restrict you. They are there so that you continue to push yourself when all other motivation fails to work. They cannot consume you, they should only serve as a fuel to burn your desires, your passions.

Nothing ever happens according to your plan. No matter how much you have planned, how much effort you have put beforehand, the most crucial factor still lies in the day of execution.

Confidence, is what you need.
Calmness, is what you need.
Composure, is what you need.
Focus, is what you need.

Hope for the best,
Pray for the best,

The hurdle you got to clear is fear.

Leader in fear, is contagious. It shakes the entire foundation.
Leader brings them to conquer their fear. He turns fear into focus.
Leader manipulate the fears into fuel that will drive them, motivate them, a force that will push them.

The biggest challenge is to manipulate this fear.
Fear gives you adrenaline, for a flight or fight response.
Do not ignore fear. Ignorance is never the solution. Fear will slowly but surely come crawling back to haunt you.

Be aware of fear.

It is meant to save you, not to cripple you.

what i truly want..

What do you truly want?

Wealth? Power?

Or just a simple life, just about your circle of friends, your neighbours, your family.

What do I really want?
I want to be rich, the one that accumulates wealth and plenty of it. I want to be in control. In control of the people I work with, the environment that I work in. I want to have the freedom to make decisions in my life.

There are many people whom i come across in my life who are hardworking, very dedicated to their job. Besides the attitude towards their work, they have also excelled in their characters. They have outstanding qualities and virtues. . Their work ethics together with their outstanding values truly distinguish them from an average employee.

Yet, some of them do not get what they deserve. They are bounded by the lack of opportunities or the demerits of our meritocratic system.  While for others, their potential are trapped by the ones leading them – their inferior superiors.

I pity them. Those that forgone their opportunities to rise to the top due to certain circumstances. I want to be the craftsman that polishes and craft these stones into glittering gems. I want to work with these brilliant individuals that uses hardwork to compensate their lack of talent.

Hence I want all of the above. Wealth and Power. With great power comes great responsibility. To end it off, donate everything and everything that you own. You will be left with a simple life.

Free will

Be a man, be yourself. Do not live a life behind someone’s shadow.
Step out, and take the initiative. Give your opinions.

Trust yourself as without you, there is none you can place your trust upon. Follow the teacher whom you respect, but never be blinded by them. They are responsible to widen your horizons to your life, not limit it.

If you think that the route is already laid infront of you, your destiny has already been determined, you shouldn’t belong in this world. This is the world where every thing happens. Greece winnning eurocup, Liverpool came back winning in Istanbul. This is the world where you fight. Under the grace of your own god. You show your worthiness, show what you are. Your character make miracles.

Don’t go disillusioning yourself that god has charted the route for you. God never did. You create your own path, you take it. After the show’s over, you show the results.

So treasure them. Your own free will is yours to take. Don’t be limited by your teachers, your faith and even your religion. Sieve out what you deem is right. What your values says that is right. What you characterize as right. Do not step in the fallacy of believeing in only one. As there is nothing accurate in this world. History can sometimes be manipulated, facts can be contorted. Every truth has its fallacies. Be objective till the end. Believe everything, if not, nothing.

You only live for a couple more decades. Nothing more. So what’s the big idea of spending just a few more decades thinking about them and do nothing for your life? You have eternity to spend with them once you step off this stage. As actions speak far louder than words. Solely thinking would never help. Do care for the weak, the improvished and the poor.

Finally, one does not act well just because there is god in the midst of the audiences. This show is too long for you to act, so live your life. And, do not waste your life away searching for god, you’ll never find traces of him. He is a quiet observer from the stands.  Only when you step off this stage, he’ll then shake your hands, give a pat on the back and say,
” Job well done.” =)

With a smiley face across of course!

follow up from my plans (II)

Some progress.. hmm baby steps.. tiny steps.. i can make it =)

1. Complete my driving license after commissioning.
2. Engage in stock exchange before commissioning.
3. Finalize the admission to university by March 2009

Yep.. finally my driving lesson starts.. progressing pretty quickly too =)…  Whereas for stock exchange.. really regretted for not taking actions. The market was in full swing 2 months ago..  My fear for not entering the market was totally unfounded. Nevertheless, like what most investors would say.. opportunity do not only struck once.

Barry, you need to better equip with the knowledge and skills to read the companies, the market and control the unfounded, groundless fear that you have. Risk is there to take. Taking calculated risks and being better prepared than others will be the winning stroke.

Barry, you still need to learn how to commit 100% focus on the task at hand. Your attention span is too short to accomplish something great. You have the capabilities, you are wise. You have a goal, to live a frugal yet meaningful life. You have a mission, to feed the poor and help to eradicate poverty. Philanthropist, your life long career, it have already begun. But how many of them can you reach? 20years and 67days have passed. If not now…….. then when?

Barry, the bright ones come out with brilliant ideas. Those that have the tenacity and initiative to complete their ideas, are the ones that shine.

Decisions

Humpty Dumpty sat on the wall,

Humpty Dumpty had a great fall.

All the King’s horses and all the King’s men,

Couldn’t put Humpty together again!

I would say sitting on the fence is equivalent to a loser. YES YOU ARE A LOSER. First, it displays the lack of courage, the fear of making a bad decision obliges you to sit on the fence. It appears to be the only safe place to hide. In addition, it shows the lack of knowledge or skills you possess towards the particular matter. Most importantly, it exhibits the low self esteem and low self confidence you are having. You are unsure of your own choices and decisions. You doubt yourself. That is why, you sit on the comfy comfy fence.

procrastination

 

Post written by Leo Babauta. Follow me on Twitter

I’ve been procrastinating a lot lately. I actually love procrastinating and have nothing against it.

But for those of you who want to beat procrastination, here are 10 simple steps:

1. First make sure you really, really, really want to do it. Seriously – don’t skip this step.
2. Keep things simple – don’t mess with tools, formatting, anything, just start.
3. Make it the first thing you do today, before checking email or anything else.
4. Clear away everything that stands in the way of doing. Including turning off the Internet.
5. Just get started. Overcome the initial barrier by diving in.
6. Tell yourself you’re just going to do 10 minutes.
7. Put something you dread more at the top of your to-do list — you’ll put off doing that by doing the other things on your list. (structured procrastination)
8. Find something about it that excites you.
9. Forget about perfection. Just start doing it, and fix it later.
10. If you keep procrastinating, re-evaluate whether you really want to do it. Consider not doing it, or putting it on the backburner.

If all else fails, just take a nap or go outside and enjoy the outdoors or do nothing. Life isn’t all about productivity. Do less.

I just love the last line.. haha.. hmm really enjoyed reading zenhabits.net =)